“You’re Doing Her a Favor”: GehGeh Sparks Outrage as She Says Men Should Never Kneel to Propose

Social media is once again on fire after controversial online personality, GehGeh, made yet another bold statement that has left the internet deeply divided. In a video making waves across various platforms, GehGeh confidently declared that men should never kneel down to propose to women because, in her words, “you’re the one doing the woman a favor.” Her assertion has stirred an avalanche of mixed reactions, ranging from heated backlash to staunch support, with many calling her out for being disrespectful, while others hail her as a “truth teller” who simply dares to say what others won’t.

In the now-viral clip, GehGeh sat with her trademark fiery confidence as she addressed what she called the “modern-day foolishness” of proposal culture. “Let’s be honest,” she began, locking eyes with the camera, “the man is the one taking the risk, the one choosing to commit, the one planning to provide, protect, and lead. So why should he kneel down like a servant just to ask for a woman’s hand? If anything, it should be the other way around. You’re doing her a favor by choosing her.” Her words, sharp and unapologetic, instantly triggered a storm of debates.

Within hours, clips of her statement spread like wildfire on X (formerly Twitter), TikTok, and Instagram, with thousands of users jumping in to share their opinions. While some agreed with her, saying men have been “emasculated” by certain modern trends, a larger number of people slammed her for promoting what they described as toxic and outdated gender ideologies. “This is why relationships are failing,” one user wrote under a repost of the clip. “How can you call love a favor? That mindset alone shows you don’t understand partnership.” Another added, “This is not confidence, this is arrogance disguised as logic.”

But GehGeh, known for her no-nonsense attitude and willingness to court controversy, seemed unbothered by the backlash. Shortly after the outrage began, she doubled down on her stance through her official X handle, tweeting: “If you’re kneeling to propose, you’re begging. A real man doesn’t beg for love; he offers direction. Women should be grateful, not expect theatrics.” Her tweet gained over 20,000 likes and nearly 10,000 quote posts within a day, as the comment section filled with debates about masculinity, respect, and modern dating expectations.

Many fans of GehGeh praised her for “keeping it real,” arguing that society has twisted gender roles to the point where men are expected to perform gestures that make them appear weak. “She’s right,” one user wrote. “The act of kneeling to propose came from Western romantic traditions. It’s not even part of our culture, yet everyone is obsessed with it. Men should stand tall when expressing love, not kneel.” Another echoed similar sentiments, stating, “A man can show love without losing dignity. GehGeh is simply saying men should lead with confidence.”

However, relationship experts and feminists have countered that GehGeh’s remarks are not only misleading but also harmful to the idea of mutual respect in relationships. One relationship coach, identified as Chidi Nwosu, criticized her take in an interview with an online blog, saying, “Love is not about who’s doing a favor or who’s leading. A marriage proposal is a gesture of affection and humility—it’s not about submission or dominance. When a man kneels, he’s not degrading himself; he’s expressing love in its purest form. That’s something to be celebrated, not mocked.”

The cultural debate surrounding proposals isn’t new, but GehGeh’s comment seems to have reignited old tensions between traditional African gender values and modern relationship ideals. In many African societies, marriage proposals were historically simple—often involving family meetings rather than public romantic gestures. But with globalization, the Western-style proposal, complete with a ring, kneeling, and sometimes even public spectacles, has become a symbol of love and commitment. Still, for some people like GehGeh, this imported practice represents an unnecessary reversal of gender hierarchy.

Several social commentators believe her statement reflects a broader frustration among some men who feel that the narrative around love and relationships has become one-sided. “There’s a growing group of young men online who feel like they’re not appreciated for what they bring to relationships,” said media analyst Tunde Adetola. “Influencers like GehGeh capitalize on that frustration by validating their feelings. Whether she truly believes what she’s saying or not, she knows that controversy sells, and statements like this will always go viral.”

Indeed, GehGeh’s brand thrives on controversy. Known for her provocative takes on gender roles, money, and relationships, she has built a loyal following by being brutally honest and unfiltered. Her critics call her divisive, but her supporters see her as a voice for the “forgotten man” in a society they believe favors women in emotional narratives. In one of her older viral videos, she once told her audience that “a man without control is a man without value,” a statement that earned her both applause and outrage in equal measure.

While some people have shrugged off her latest remarks as mere attention-seeking, others say it opens an important conversation about how people define love and respect. Many women have spoken up online, saying that they do not view a man kneeling as submission but as a romantic tradition. “When a man kneels, he’s not lowering himself; he’s expressing vulnerability,” one woman wrote on TikTok. “That moment shows that love is about equality, not ego.” Another commented, “If you can’t humble yourself for the one you love, then what’s the point of marriage?”

Still, GehGeh’s words seem to resonate with a portion of the audience who feel modern relationships have lost balance. One follower wrote, “She might sound harsh, but there’s truth there. Too many men get disrespected while trying to please women who don’t appreciate them. Maybe it’s time to reset expectations.”

Whether one agrees with her or not, there’s no denying that GehGeh has once again succeeded in capturing public attention and steering the conversation. Her statement has not only challenged conventional romantic norms but also exposed the deep divisions that exist in how people view love, gender, and respect in modern society.

As the debate continues to rage online, one thing remains clear: the question of whether a man should kneel to propose is no longer just about romance—it has become a battleground for ideas about power, identity, and equality. For some, kneeling remains a timeless symbol of love and devotion. For others, it is an outdated gesture that undermines masculine pride. And in the middle of it all stands GehGeh, unfazed, unapologetic, and very aware that every word she speaks keeps her name trending.

Whether her statement will change minds or simply add more noise to the ever-loud social media landscape is yet to be seen. But if GehGeh wanted to spark a reaction, she certainly succeeded—because once again, she’s got the entire internet talking.