“This Generation of Women Makes Staying Single So Easy for Men” — Erigga Sparks Debate with Blunt Take on Modern Dating

Nigerian rapper Erigga has once again ignited social media flames with a blunt statement that has divided opinions across gender lines. The Warri-born artist, known for his streetwise lyrics and unfiltered commentary on society, recently tweeted that "this generation of women makes staying single so easy for men," sparking immediate outrage, applause, and everything in between.

In a country where gender roles, relationships, and societal expectations are constantly evolving, Erigga’s words struck a nerve. Coming from someone who commands a large following among young Nigerians, his tweet did more than trend—it reflected a growing sentiment among a section of men who claim to be disillusioned with modern women and their approach to relationships. On the other hand, it also reignited fierce conversations around misogyny, double standards, and the emotional expectations women still shoulder in relationships.

The viral statement, which originated on X (formerly Twitter), gained massive traction within hours. With thousands of reposts, quotes, and replies, it became the center of one of the weekend's hottest debates. While some men agreed wholeheartedly, calling Erigga “fearless” and “based,” many women felt insulted and stereotyped, accusing the rapper of promoting toxic narratives about modern femininity.

At the heart of Erigga’s argument is the claim that today’s women allegedly prioritize superficial values, often placing unrealistic expectations on men while offering little in return emotionally or domestically. Critics of modern dating, like the rapper, often argue that with increasing materialism, hyper-independence, and social media validation, the traditional essence of companionship is slowly eroding. For them, the idea of building something meaningful with a partner seems less appealing in an age where filters, followers, and flexing take center stage.

“You want a man who earns six figures, has emotional intelligence, owns a house, speaks ten languages, and takes you to Zanzibar on the second date—but what do you bring to the table?” asked one viral reply to Erigga’s post. That kind of sentiment echoes across comment sections, podcast panels, and street conversations—suggesting many men feel the dating pool has become a minefield of unattainable standards.

But beyond the surface, Erigga’s comment—and the subsequent storm—reveals more about the deepening gender divide in Nigerian society. The rise of feminism, women’s empowerment, and financial independence has fundamentally shifted the dynamic in relationships. Many women today are no longer content with settling for less or tolerating emotional or financial burdens that older generations endured in silence. They are choosing themselves first, which some men view as a threat to traditional structures.

From the female perspective, Erigga’s take is not just tone-deaf but symptomatic of a society that often resists women’s progress. “Men are no longer able to manipulate or control women the way they used to, and that scares them,” one female respondent tweeted in reply. Others pointed out that men now face a level of scrutiny and accountability in relationships that they are not used to—and instead of rising to the occasion, many retreat and label independent women as “difficult” or “undesirable.”

Indeed, many women who weighed in on the discussion argued that men are the ones who have made modern dating so discouraging. Tales of infidelity, emotional unavailability, bare-minimum effort, and entitlement litter the modern love landscape. To them, Erigga’s frustration is less about women’s character and more about the collapse of male privilege in romantic relationships.

Still, the rapper’s comment speaks to a reality that cannot be dismissed entirely. A growing number of Nigerian men are opting out of committed relationships altogether, citing peace of mind, financial independence, and fear of heartbreak as their reasons. With dating apps and casual hookups becoming more normalized, the concept of long-term partnership is no longer as appealing or urgent for many. Erigga, in many ways, gave voice to this silent exodus.

It also highlights how far culture has shifted from the days when marriage was a social and spiritual obligation. Today’s young adults are more likely to prioritize personal growth, career success, and self-discovery over traditional milestones like marriage and parenthood. And with the cost of living skyrocketing and the economy uncertain, many men feel unready to take on the weight of serious relationships, especially when they feel women’s expectations are higher than ever.

What’s ironic is that both genders often mirror each other’s complaints. While men like Erigga lament high expectations and “attitude” from women, many women equally complain about men’s lack of maturity, consistency, and communication skills. The dating scene, as it stands, is a battleground of unmet needs, generational trauma, and misaligned intentions.

The question remains—was Erigga wrong to say what many are thinking but afraid to voice? Or was he simply being reductionist, painting an entire gender with one broad, careless stroke? As with most polarizing statements, the truth may lie somewhere in the messy middle.

Social commentators have also weighed in, urging both men and women to stop weaponizing dating experiences and instead look inward. “We’re dealing with two generations who grew up in broken systems, trying to love each other while healing from pain they didn’t cause,” said a popular therapist on Instagram. “If we don’t have grace and empathy for each other, we will all keep ending up single, bitter, or worse—settled and unhappy.”

For Erigga, the backlash likely won't faze him. Known for his no-filter approach, he has always positioned himself as a mouthpiece for street truth—even if it comes wrapped in controversy. But whether he intended to or not, he has sparked a necessary conversation: What do men and women truly want from each other in 2025? And are they even speaking the same language?

One thing is certain—dating in this era is nothing like it was a generation ago. Whether that’s a good thing or not depends entirely on where you're standing. But if Erigga’s tweet has done anything, it’s reminded us that relationships are no longer taken for granted, and maybe that’s where the healing begins.