“Why Date One When You Can Have Four?” — Tacha Sparks Controversy with Her Relationship Advice

Former Big Brother Naija star, Anita Natacha Akide, popularly known as Tacha, has once again set social media ablaze with her unapologetic and often controversial takes on relationships and modern-day dating culture. In her latest hot take, the reality TV personality boldly declared, “Don’t be out there dating just one man. You need three other boyfriends in your life,” a statement that has not only left fans divided but has also thrown Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok into a frenzy of arguments, memes, and counter-opinions. Known for her outspoken nature, Tacha has never been one to shy away from giving blunt, unfiltered advice to women, especially when it comes to matters of money, independence, and relationships. This latest remark came during a casual conversation where she addressed young women who, according to her, are wasting time being loyal to one man who might not even be loyal to them. Her words have since been replayed in countless short clips and reposted across entertainment blogs, sparking heated debates across Nigeria and beyond. The quote has already been remixed into skits by comedians and used in banter-filled conversations about dating struggles. For some, it is the most honest and liberating piece of advice they have heard in a while, while for others, it is nothing short of toxic, promoting infidelity and a warped sense of relationships.

Tacha’s reasoning, as she explained, stems from her belief that men often date multiple women while expecting loyalty from one. According to her, women should stop being naïve and start playing the same game, ensuring they do not put all their emotions, financial needs, or time into a single man who may disappoint them. In a society where many women are pressured to remain faithful even when their partners are not, her statement has struck a nerve, creating a cultural conversation about double standards, loyalty, and what modern relationships should really look like. As usual, the internet wasted no time in weighing in. Supporters of Tacha’s stance flooded her comment sections with applause, with many women praising her for boldly saying what they secretly believed but could never voice out in public. Some even called her the “saviour of Gen Z ladies” and a “prophetess of reality” for normalizing the idea that women should date multiple men just as men have always done. According to this group, her advice is not just about romance but also about balance, self-preservation, and never allowing a man to have all the power in a relationship.

But on the flip side, a significant number of people, including many men, dragged her mercilessly for what they considered the promotion of immoral values. Critics accused Tacha of encouraging promiscuity, dishonesty, and a destructive cycle that undermines genuine love and commitment. “What kind of nonsense advice is this? Imagine telling young girls to have three boyfriends while pretending to be serious with one,” one angry user tweeted, while another wrote, “This is why relationships no longer last. Everyone wants to play games instead of being honest.” The backlash quickly expanded beyond Nigeria, with blogs in Ghana, Kenya, and South Africa carrying the story, proving that her words had sparked a continental debate.

Interestingly, while many attacked her, others argued that people were simply misinterpreting her statement. They claimed that she was not necessarily advocating for deceit but rather pushing women to broaden their options instead of emotionally investing everything into one relationship too early. To them, her message was simply: do not commit to a man who hasn’t committed to you, and until you know where you stand, there’s nothing wrong with having multiple admirers. This interpretation gave her statement a softer, almost empowering edge, and it was quickly adopted by some of her fans as a philosophy of “dating smart” rather than “dating dirty.” Still, no matter how you slice it, Tacha’s comment has become one of the most discussed social media trends of the week.

Celebrities and influencers have also begun weighing in on the matter, with some openly agreeing with her while others strongly opposed her. Some relationship coaches accused her of misleading young women who look up to her as a role model, while others insisted that she had simply held up a mirror to reality—one that many people prefer not to acknowledge. Even pastors and motivational speakers have now subtly entered the debate, with one sermon making rounds online warning against “the new wave of multiple dating” being promoted by celebrities.

Tacha herself, however, has remained unfazed by the backlash. True to her brand, she responded to the criticism with sarcastic posts, laughing at those who were offended by her statement and reminding them that nobody is forced to take her advice. “If you like, date one man, if you like, date ten. At the end of the day, it’s your choice. But don’t come crying when he’s cheating on you with five different girls,” she reportedly said in a follow-up Instagram live session. Her fearless approach has only fueled further engagement, making her once again the center of Nigeria’s ever-bubbling pop culture conversation.

The ripple effect of her statement shows just how much influence social media personalities like Tacha now wield. Her words have transcended ordinary banter and entered the realm of cultural influence, shaping discussions on love, dating, and even morality. It also reflects a generational shift in how people perceive relationships. For older generations, loyalty and patience were non-negotiables, while for younger people navigating an unpredictable dating pool, the rules are constantly being rewritten, and Tacha’s statement captures that perfectly. Whether her words are taken as satire, genuine advice, or simply a way to stir controversy, they have undeniably cemented her place as one of Nigeria’s most talked-about figures in entertainment.

As the conversations rage on, one thing is clear: Tacha knows how to get people talking, and love her or hate her, her voice carries weight in shaping how many young women think about their personal choices. Her advice to date multiple men at once may sound outrageous to some, but to others, it is a refreshing wake-up call in a dating landscape riddled with betrayal, heartbreak, and unbalanced expectations. In the end, her statement has forced society to confront uncomfortable truths about double standards in relationships. And whether you agree with her or not, she has sparked a debate that will not be ending anytime soon.