“Was I Truly at Fault?” — Lady Heartbroken After Friend Blocks Her for Not Asking About Her Delay in Having Children

A touching story has sparked emotional reactions across social media after a lady narrated how her longtime friend blocked her for not asking about her struggles with childbearing. The incident, shared on X (formerly Twitter) by a user identified as ANA H.A.N.E.E.F.A.H (@Haneefahjumoke), has opened a wave of discussions about friendship boundaries, empathy, and the sensitive nature of fertility issues among women.

According to Haneefah, her friend, who has been married for a while and is reportedly a TTC mum (Trying To Conceive), suddenly cut her off after accusing her of being a bad person for never inquiring about why she has not had children yet. In her post, Haneefah explained that she had always kept her friend in her prayers, sincerely hoping that God would bless her womb and grant her the joy of motherhood. However, she admitted she never asked directly about the situation because she didn’t know how to approach the topic without causing emotional pain.

“My old-time friend has been married for a while now, a TTC mum. Anytime I pray, I always remember her, asking God to bless her womb and give her children,” she wrote. “Until one day, she challenged me that I’m a bad person because I never once asked her why she’s yet to give birth or if there’s any issue. She didn’t even let me talk; she just blocked me and said she’s no longer interested in being my friend. Meanwhile, I sincerely don’t know how to ask her and how she’d feel if I did. Was I truly at fault for not asking?”

Her emotional question — “Was I truly at fault?” — has since stirred a heated debate, with many users divided over who was right or wrong. Some empathized with Haneefah’s friend, saying that silence from loved ones can feel like neglect during sensitive struggles, while others defended Haneefah, arguing that asking such personal questions could have come off as intrusive or hurtful.

One commenter wrote, “It’s hard to be in her shoes. When you’re trying to conceive, every month feels like a battle. Sometimes, not asking makes it feel like no one cares, even if they do.” Another person countered, “Honestly, you did the right thing. Some women get offended when you ask, and others get offended when you don’t. There’s no winning with this kind of situation.”

The story has sparked broader conversations about how people handle sensitive topics such as infertility, miscarriage, or delayed conception — especially within African communities where childbearing is often viewed as a measure of marital success. In many societies, women are frequently subjected to pressure, questions, and unsolicited advice from family and friends, often without considering how deeply such conversations might wound someone who is silently struggling.

Many users praised Haneefah for her restraint and empathy, noting that her decision not to pry into her friend’s private life was a sign of respect. A user commented, “You weren’t wrong. You were being considerate. Infertility is a painful journey, and not everyone wants to talk about it. You did your part by praying for her.” Another added, “Sometimes people in pain project their frustration on those closest to them. She might not even mean it. She’s just hurting.”

However, others argued that genuine friendship involves open communication and emotional check-ins, even when topics are uncomfortable. One user wrote, “If she was your friend, she might have just wanted you to ask, not because she wanted to discuss her problems, but to feel seen and cared for. Sometimes silence feels like abandonment.”

Psychologists have also weighed in on similar situations, explaining that communication gaps often arise because people don’t know how to handle sensitive issues like infertility. According to experts, some individuals struggling to conceive may interpret their friends’ silence as indifference, while those friends might genuinely avoid the topic out of fear of causing more pain. This emotional disconnect can easily lead to resentment and misunderstandings, as seen in Haneefah’s story.

The post has continued to trend, with thousands of retweets and comments, as many women shared their personal experiences of friendship strains due to fertility challenges. Some recounted how they lost friends who stopped visiting or checking up on them after years of childlessness, while others said they distanced themselves from people who constantly asked intrusive questions.

A woman replied under Haneefah’s post, “I went through this for five years. People either stopped talking to me because they didn’t know what to say, or they kept asking questions that broke me every time. It’s a lonely journey.” Another said, “When I was TTC, I hated questions like ‘When will you give us good news?’ But I also hated when people ignored the topic entirely. It’s confusing.”

Haneefah’s story highlights the complexity of human relationships and how good intentions can be misunderstood. While her silence was meant to protect her friend from further pain, her friend interpreted it as lack of concern — a painful irony that shows how emotional wounds can distort perception.

It also sheds light on how modern friendships are tested by societal expectations. In a world where women are often judged by their ability to bear children, conversations around infertility remain heavy, and silence is sometimes mistaken for neglect. As some netizens put it, there’s simply “no right way” to handle such issues, only sensitivity, patience, and love.

As of now, Haneefah has not shared whether her friend has reached out or if she plans to mend the relationship. But her heartfelt question, “Was I truly at fault?” continues to resonate deeply across social media, prompting many to reflect on how they treat friends who may be silently going through painful experiences.

Perhaps the biggest takeaway from the viral thread is that compassion doesn’t always have to be spoken. Sometimes, the quiet prayers we say for others carry more love than words ever could — even if those we pray for never get to see it.

In a world where people are constantly navigating invisible battles, Haneefah’s story serves as a reminder that everyone expresses care differently. While some need words of comfort, others find solace in silent prayers. And maybe, just maybe, no one was truly at fault — just two hearts trying to love each other in the only ways they knew how.