Relationship Coach Lists Eight Signs of a “Simp,” Sparks Debate Among Nigerian Men Online

Following a viral 3-minute video from relationship coach @declaircoach has stirred lively discussion across Nigerian X (Twitter) circles after he outlined eight key signs of a “simp”—a term often used to describe men who go overboard to please women without receiving equal effort or commitment in return.

In the clip posted on November 9, 2025, the coach breaks down behaviors he believes reflect low self-respect in modern relationships, including spending lavishly without commitment, apologizing when not wrong, and prioritizing a woman’s comfort over personal boundaries.

She argues that such tendencies stem from insecurity rather than love, urging men to build self-worth and emotional balance instead of seeking validation through money or submission.

The video quickly gained traction, amassing 36 likes and 26 replies within hours, mostly from men reacting humorously yet approvingly to the message. Many echoed the sentiment that “simping” has become normalized in today’s dating culture, with one user commenting, “Na why women no dey respect some guys again — dem dey overdo kindness.”

Beyond the online banter, the post touches on deeper cultural conversations around gender roles, emotional labor, and financial expectations in relationships. Experts have drawn parallels between @declaircoach’s points and psychological studies on reciprocity—such as John Gottman’s research, which emphasizes that mutual effort and respect, not one-sided sacrifice, are the strongest predictors of long-term relationship success.

As the clip continues to circulate, it reinforces a growing narrative among Nigerian men about redefining masculinity—not as dominance or submission, but as balanced partnership built on respect, accountability, and self-value.

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